A lot of readers arrive here at Donuts & Desires after searching the term "secrets to eating pussy" so obviously this is a popular topic. These Googlers need answers, people, so let's give them what they're looking for!
A while back, I posted my girl's cunilingus advice (Why? Because she's really really really really good at it) and, because that post on eating pussy was so popular, I went back to Sweet and asked her for yet more advice.
Now, to start us off, the original "Sweet's Secret to Eating Pussy" (in her words):
its never about specific actions .. its about being aware of reactions and building on things that are working in the moment .. each time one makes love, feelings, attitude, pressures and general outlooks will make different actions more stimulating so to say do A or B or C is not the way to go .. explore.. work gently and build on what you feel in reaction from your partner during that particular timeThank you my Sweetheart! And now...here it comes...MORE of Sweet's Secrets to Eating Pussy:
take your time .. go slowly and feel how they react .. when you feel a reaction then remember the spot and use it .. be gentle .. take it slowly and remember you dont have to start with the pussy .. work up to it so they build the anticipation .. then wanting it they will accept a touch and mentally amplify it for you .. and when you hit THE spot its ever more
just remember its all about YOUR giving .. and should never be about getting anything .. if you can concentrate on giving everything then you will be rewarded by your partners reactions and those reactions will turn you on ... make you wet ..push you to give more
After reading this, I said, okay, sure, but I think my readers are going to want advice on what to do physically. What should they DO? Her response (and I do feel I should mention that she actually does know how to capitalize sentences and use apostrophes, etc, but these are all lazy girlfriend-to-girlfriend MSN conversations):there is no better advice than take your time and explore .. be gentle and touch .. vary the movement and the "attack" .. tip of your tongue or broad sweep .. both work but at the right time ... still its about giving .. and finding those places on your partner that are sensitive ... and those places may and often do change from session to session
treat each time as the first time ... remember she is your "virgin" and you are the trusted love of her life .. respect the moment ... take your time ... and truly give of yourselfAwwww...that nearly made me cry, Sweet!
What do you think? Do the Googlers need more...more...MORE secrets to eating pussy? If you think so and you're feeling generous, please do leave yours in the comments, be they messy, sloppy, licky, sucky, clean or down and dirty. The Googlers will thank you!
So, readers, what's your secret to eating pussy? Sweet's advice is rather abstract . Want to get more specific? More explicit? More slot A tab B? Go for it! Comment away!
Hugs,
Giselle
I won't pretend to be an expert, but these are my thoughts on the subject.
ReplyDeleteAbstract is definitely good, and can be wonderfully liberating, but if it's your first time doing anything sexual, for some people (okay, me), the advice "do what feels good" is scary. Because, for a start, sex is so vulnerable, and admitting that you think something might be nice tends to bring up the worry that maybe that's because there's something wrong with you. Well, me. Still, I think an inquisitive mind is probably the most important aspect of learning, well, anything really.
Obv., if you already know something about your partner's likes, that's good! You can mix those things in to what you're doing. If you don't know about those things, maybe that's the place to start. Does she like her nipples squeezed, her belly stroked, something in her vagina or up her butt?
If it's her first time or your first time, the most straightforward receiver lying down flat on her back with the giver lying between her legs is probably best, but you can mix it up a little -- does she like to be tied up? Is she willing to try it? Tying her down spreadeagled might be fun.
As for the what do you do with your tongue part, well, that's going to vary depended on what your partner likes, so don't worry about that so much as paying attention to what she responds to. If it's her first time and she doesn't know yet what she likes, mix it up some. Try harder or gentler pressure, for example. Is she more sensitive in one place or another? A lot of it really comes down to a few questions, I suppose: 'where?' 'what kind of pressure?' and 'how hard?' For example, she might like ticklish pressure near her clit, just tiny circles with the tip of your tongue, and long, strong, strokes against her labia.
Ask her about how she masturbates, and watch (if she's not bashful about it), and try to simulate what she does to herself, but with your tongue. That's probably a good place to start.
Wow, what super-amazing advice! Thanks so much, Molly.
ReplyDeleteAnybody else want to throw their hat into the ring? ;-)
Hugs,
Giselle
It’s all about loving a woman’s body. The tongue is an incredible organ – it can totally reshape itself: flat, it can cover her entire pussy, warming and moistening even just holding still, or ever so slowly sliding up and down her slit. Pointy, it can very lightly tickle every tiny spot on her surface, or it can – slowly or suddenly – penetrate deep inside her. Of course once inside, it can curl and probe to find that special spot, or it can just as suddenly pull out and thrust again, maybe bringing the nose in contact with her clit for added excitement. Add in a little suction with the lips – or a lot – and you’ll have her over the top in no time.
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree with all of the above comments – try different things, varying what you’re doing, paying close attention to how she’s responding to each nuance, keeping the conversation going (well, when your tongue isn’t otherwise involved) about what she likes, what she’d like more or less of, fine-tuning your technique to love this particular woman’s body in the best way possible.
Two traps to avoid: don’t just keep doing the same thing over and over, unless of course you can tell it’s building her to a frenzy. And don’t just stick to what you’d love most to receive. Of course knowing what you love can be a guide or a starting place, but every woman is different. Let her response be your goal and your guide.
Thanks, you! And, trust me, the Googlers are finding us. Any other takers?
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Giselle
Sometimes it can take a while, so I strongly encourage both people to get comfortable, and especially the one doing the pussy eating to be in a position that's *sustainable,* because when you are doing the right thing that is going to get her to orgasm, virtually all women I've been with (and it's true for me, too), want you to do that same thing over and over, exactly the same, till she comes.
ReplyDeleteI'm talking about once you have hit the golden spot, and if you keep going, that's the one that will send her over the edge. It's so frustrating when you're almost there and then they move! So, get comfortable with where your head, neck, chin, arms, etc., are so you can continue on that spot in just the same tempo, pressure, etc.
I also agree that everything is best with a teasing, slow approach (unless you know your partner really well and what they want, and you want rough sex, but if you're in that situation, you probably don't need this advice!). Start with the thighs, the fur, the mons, the labia -- work your way in.
Also, TALK, COMMUNICATE. Find out if she likes direct pressure on her clit or only next to it. Does she like you to enter her with your tongue, or does she want to keep the vag out of things and just focus on the clit? ASK her: How does this feel? Is there something you'd like me to do differently? Try your best to follow instructions, but if you don't get it right off the bat, that's OK, the process should be fun for both of you!
Two things I love: Pressing the entire tongue flat to cover as much as possible -- feels so warm and lots of sensation but nothing too "poky/pointy" -- and conversely light flicking on the top of the clit. If you can manage it, finger fucking with one hand while licking clit at the same time is divine. Eating pussy while playing with one of her nipples is also the best thing since sliced chocolate cake, IMO.
On that note, one more thing: Don't be afraid to use your hands, too! If you want to keep her labia spread so you can get a better angle or shape on her clit or whatever, that is not forbidden. Or if there is some tummy you want to hold back to give you more of a "clear field," that can be helpful, too. Sometimes the receiving partner will move or hold "parts" to offer you the spot she most wants you to focus on. Sex is, after all, a team sport. And there's no "I" in team (but there is in "cunnilingus."