Monday, August 27, 2012
The City Sucked My Soul (and authors gave it back)
It was a weird time. I wasn't happy and I wasn't nice. Those who have known me all my life would tell you I've always had a brusque personality (can you believe it?), but working downtown and dealing with asshole clients brought out the worst in me.
Thankfully, my company's Toronto office was closed down by our American Overlords (all hail!) and I was out of a job. That was another weird time, because my bosses wanted to "sell" me (in a political sense) to colleagues or competitors at other organizations. "Just MEET with him, meet with her, see what they've got to offer."
But nobody in business could buy me back that slice of soul I'd abandoned to the city. Only the writing community could do that.
Just yesterday, I realized how huge a role "the city" played in my soul-sucking. I'd blamed business, work, clients, but they were only a piece of the puzzle. The city is the landscape of soul-sucking.
Yonge is a main street here in Toronto that runs North/South, pretty much dividing the city in two. It spans the entire length of Toronto and then some. It's a really long road, and it's many things to many people. Mid-town it's swanky, uptown it's "Young and Eligible" (a play on the intersection Yonge and Eglinton, where the single yuppies live), but right downtown it's scuzz.
Yes, it's tourist central--this is where the Eaton's Centre is located--but that doesn't reduce the Jerry Springerness of the area. Actually, I don't want to get snarky because I'm talking about serious issues here. During my walk to BuskerFest (North America's largest festival of busking), I encountered so much homelessness and mental illness on the city streets that I wondered how I used to navigate these paths every day without my heart tearing in half.
Because it's always been like this. Whether homelessness stats are up in the city, I'm really not sure. But I remember a time when I blocked it out. I remember a time when a guy screaming, "Give me a fucking quarter you fucking bitch!" was just something you walked by without FEELING it.
Yesterday, there was a momentary shift in me. Yonge Street did the trick. The poverty and illness (and fervent religiosity) overwhelmed me to the point where I slipped back into that zone other urbanites have no doubt lived in: you stop seeing people, stop hearing their pleas. They stop existing. It's a protective place.
I'd like to think our hearts can only handle so much sorrow, but it has to do with noise as well. At Yonge and College, I had 3 dudes with leaflets telling me I was going to hell while and elderly woman asked me for change. All at the same time. When 4 different people are all at you for something, it's hard not to shut down, especially when you know you're going to take 2 steps forward and the same thing's going to happen all over again.
I shut down yesterday. I stopped seeing human suffering, stopped acknowledging human beings. I think it was only a temporary measure on the part of my psyche, but I understand now how I managed to shut down (emotionally) so completely when I worked in that environment every day.
I don't know how many of you are country mice and how many are city mice, but I'd love to hear your perspectives. I'd especially love to hear comments from people who grew up in smaller communities, about their experiences with large urban centres.
Thanks for being my stand-in therapists, everybody.
Have a great Monday.