Perhaps you didn’t though. Perhaps it’s just been placed on the backburner to sizzle while other things were placed on the front. Think about it. When you start a relationship everything else is placed on to the side or even put on hold while you explore your feelings.
So how do you get that back? Can you even get it back?
I’m no relationship expert, but I think it depends on how much both parties want to get it back. If you’re both willing, why not try? Here’s an interesting idea. Have an affair with each other. Think about what people do when they cheat and then try it with your spouse.
What does that mean? Sneak around, leave each other notes, text or emails, or meet for lunch at a new place. Maybe an out of the way place like you would if you really were having an affair. And don’t show up in your ragged sweat pants. Your spouse can see that at home. Plus, you wouldn’t dress that way if you were having an affair. You’d go all out, put your best foot forward. During this “affair time”, don’t talk about the bills or the kids. Would you do that with your secret lover? No. You’d want to be interesting, focusing on each other.
Even if it doesn’t put the spark back, it sure sounds fun to try.
Lucas Sinclair is determined to give his wife Colleen her heart’s desire. Problem is, Colleen yearns for a child and they haven’t been able to conceive. With persistent pressure from their doctor, they agree to see a sex therapist who tells them to have fun and live out their fantasies. Colleen confesses to having one fantasy, but can she let go of her pain long enough to act it out?Blog:Jasmine Black blog